A question for anyone phobic or a victim of it?

I'm not gay either but I fell away from being Catholic on this. With a lot of my friends it comes down to the fact that they view all the actions as being perverted and evil and that the person is brain disordered, but they still respect them as a human being. or so they claim. I've gotten in 2 separate fights with my two best best friends over this pre-election. By the time you think all that about a person your view is obviously too clouded to truly respect them or view them as normal despite ally our "love the sinner, hate the sin" BS