Table Manners with friends/family

It sounds like you're really into being in control, but since you're the one who is legally LIABLE if anything goes wrong, that's understandable. It looks like you're offering each child three meals and two snacks each and if they won't take them, that's their fault. That's not abusive, that's called common sense. You also offer them the opportunity to do what most children DON'T do today: exercise. You are making it clear that in your household, not eating right/exercising isn't an option. There's nothing wrong with that, that's what MORE parents should do! Don't be scared of some 12-year-old punk who is trying to use her "I was abused" status! Please don't, more than anything she NEEDS this. She's a fat-*** and if she doesn't like getting picked on for it, she needs to exercise commonsense and stop eating like one! You actually sound like a GOOD parent! As for the people who think homeschooling is a bad thing, understand that I was home-schooled and I got on just fine. Were there things I was 'clueless' about? Yeah, lots. However, I knew better than to even consider putting myself into a position where that 'knowledge' would help me anyway! I was smart enough to know that option didn't even exist for me! Your foster daughter hasn't hd the chance to experience this, that's all. God bless you!